I woke up this morning and realised its all about choice, when i get asked to do something I can choose to do it of choose not to do it. It is the element of manipulation and coercion that makes me uncomfortable. I realised that I was feeling manipulated and while the request made of me might have seemed reasonable to the person who made it it did not feel reasonable to me. I thought about the request and I realised that I was ok to agree to the request and I did. My concern was that if I agreed to one request then I would feel obliged to agree to more, again I realise I have a choice. Its all about making the right choice for me not for others. Hope I remember this when next faced with dealing with an uncomfortable request. In the long run looking after myself is the most important.